23 THINGS TO BE MINDFUL OF IN 2023.

It’s a brand new year and we’re all set to build new stories, new memories, and new lives. Some of us might be struggling to put our lives together, while others are relishing every moment. Each of our stories and different, perspectives are different, and our ideologies are different. A lot of you might have taken resolutions but here’s a spin on it. Why don’t we take a unique resolution this year themed MINDFUL 2023 ,that might help us and our loved ones in a more healing way? 

 

Here are 23 things, which I think are extremely necessary for one and all for a mindful 2023, no matter what story they are living in.

• • Before you start, please take a deep breath and read with an open mind. While a lot of these points might make you remember someone or the other, some other points might very well fit you. Get ready to accept. 
    1. 1. Your dreams can come true if you really, really want them to and work for them.
       2. Planning doesn’t always work. It’s always good to plan, but it is always good to understand that sometimes these plans don’t turn out the way you wanted them to. 
       3. Don’t judge a book by its cover. Don’t judge a person in the first meeting.  There’s so much beneath that face, under the cover. 
       4. Anger and ego are your enemies. The more you give them space to work, the more they’ll eat you up, your talents, and your relationships. 
       5. Think before you speak. Sometimes a small word or a sentence can incur deep scars in the hearts and minds of people who love you. 
       6. Don’t give up your personality in the process of pleasing others and making a space in their hearts. You don’t even know how long they’ll stay and when they’re gone you’re not even left with your original personality.
       7. When someone is shouting and abusing, stay silent. Do not argue, and do not try to calm them down. Just don’t. They may be coming from a space that has taught them to shout. Pray for them. 
       8. Hug someone when they need it or when they ask for it. A small, tight hug can calm their storms and make things right for them. 
       9. Define your boundaries and let even your loved ones know them. If you’re not comfortable doing something and if you are forced to do it, step away. You don’t have to kill yourself and make yourself uncomfortable to please others. If they love you, they will understand. 
       10. Don’t let anyone belittle you for sharing your opinions and ideas. Everyone is human. Everyone’s perspectives are different in life. It’s okay to have different opinions but it’s not okay for someone to dismiss your ideas as if it’s trash, illogical and unreasonable. 
       11. Parents can be a blessing or curse. Hey, do not judge me here. Parents have the right to tell you what is right or not based on their perspective, but it’s your duty to understand if the perspective fits right in this generation or in the situation or not. It’s not disrespecting their opinions. It’s deciding what is right and what is not. You can always discuss.
       12. Stay away from people who think you are arguing with them every time you put a different light to a perspective. It’s called a discussion and not an argument. 
       13. You know sometimes you’re with people and then you come back all energized and happy and motivated. And then there are some who suck your energy out and all you feel like is hitting the bed. Be with people who add to your happy hormones. Please. 
       14. Your dreams are valid dreams. If someone has the audacity of calling those dreams invalid, please quote the line from Little Women – “ Just because my dreams are different than yours, doesn’t mean they’re unimportant.” 
       15. Stay away from people who keep on finding flaws in other people. Every human is unique and their nature is unique. Not everyone’s perfect but there’s no harm in trying to find out positives instead of negatives. If you think they’re completely flawed, you always have the right to stay away from them. 
       16. If someone raises their voice at you when you calmly keep on telling them to lower it since it’s not making you comfortable and if they keep on shouting, just leave the room. You have absolutely no reason to stay with someone who doesn’t know where to draw the line. 
       17. Do not trust people who spill out your secrets when they’re angry or upset.  
       18. A truly happy person will never make fun of others. Observe if the people surrounding you are constantly gossiping and laughing at others and if they are, please do not get involved.
       19. Do not be a subject of someone else’s childhood trauma and misery. Be respectful of what have been through but it is not your responsibility to understand if their trauma is affecting how they behave with you and further disrupting your mental health. 
       20. Set priorities. Make proper time for your work and family. If you’re unable to manage time for your family claiming you have way too much work to do for longer periods of time, be ready to face their unavailability when you need them. No one is ever too busy to set priorities. 
       21. Observe people. If they consistently weave stories about themselves and others, know that they’re trying to hide something and save their image. Please believe what you think is right. You don’t need to shout and tell stories if you’re right. 
       22. Always be truthful. One lie can destroy a lot of things. 
       23. Accept mistakes and apologize if you’re wrong. It’ll not make you small but it’ll save that relationship and guilt. An apology can free your mind and heart as well as take off the negative impact you’ve imprinted on someone else’s mind and heart. 

It’s never harmful to be kind. It’s never going to take away anything from you if you think. Speak and act a little more kindly and softly. Here’s hoping we all have a blessed year full of positivity and zero toxicity.